or why are words more suggestive than sights
Did you ever wonder how average looking girl dates some gorgeous guys or even more often a regular guy dates a supermodel? There are much stronger incentives than mere appearance. Words and behavior will always overcome someone's good look. When I was younger I always asked myself how come some girls have better guys than me although I know I look better. I found out that the answer lies in how they handle those guys. Of course, some of us are more talented but those techniques can be learned by everyone.
Ground rules when you're single or just looking for an adventure
If you're single the best advice you can get is to be discreetly available. Yes, there are overconfident men who enjoy hunting and they are looking for challenges, but once they catch you they'll just move on to another. People are always intuitively drawn by a potential opportunity. All you have to do is give them an unambiguous signal and motivate them to take charge.
When you got someone's interest, the secret is (no matter if you're in a relationship or in a process of seducing someone) you have to make him or her always thinking about you. You have to fulfill his (or hers) day with little reminders of you. Starting from some innocent SMS or photos (in a sexy dress just to remind him how great legs you have) to some dirty lines that will make his heart galloping.
Some filthy words will have a different effect depending on someone's preferences or sensitivity. The goal is to find word or words that create a sexy fantasy in your partner's mind. Which fantasy is that, it's up to you to find out, but you can do that through little nasty teasing which will also raise his interest in you.
What to say and when
To start a reaction there are some lines you can use:
- I want to tie you up later and make you my toy.
- You make me feel hot at first. Now I feel wet.
- I love when you kiss me... right there.
- Your tongue drives me crazy. I know exactly where to use it.
Of course, to be able to implant your colorful thoughts in someone's head you also need to find the right moment. It must not be rushed or in wrong time but it's good to be unexpected. He needs to be in the mood to receive this stimulating illustration.
The formula is to say the right words, the right way at the right moment. It sounds complicated, but it's not! What to say and how is something everyone can learn and the right moment is something you have to recognize. Or even better - create. It's a moment that can be reached by simply redirecting a conversation.
Where to start
You can't learn all the psychology with one or a few Internet articles. One of the best material I've seen so far on seduction and dirty talk is here. I strongly recommend starting with this if you're interested to master these techniques.